By Laura Lorenzo
I think that my young acquaintance, Noah over at Mediaite, may have over-interpreted this exchange, just a tiny bit. That said, he’s a nice kid, and you should read him anyway.
The thing that caught my ear, during the clip, was when Melissa Harris-Perry talked about teaching young girls how to “negotiate condom usage”. Hmm. How about this, girls: “Wear a condom, or you don’t get any”. See how easy that ‘negotiation’ was? I barely broke a sweat.
How about “teaching” young women that if a guy can’t grasp the basic reasons why you use a condom, then maybe his knowledge of the sexual realm is limited in other ways? Cuz I know what let’s do! Let’s expose ourselves to all the considerable risks of sex, and not get anything out of it! Speaking as someone who was once a young woman, that is generally the case…and it doesn’t necessarily change as you get older, at least in uncommitted relationships.
In the way-back, we taught young women to value their virginity. That was enforced with a notion of morality and shame and societal/God’s judgment. Say what you will, but that was a whole lot simpler. Now, we have to appeal to their intelligence and forward-thinking. That’s tricky enough with teenage girls, and pretty much impossible with their potential partners, particularly now that ‘shotgun weddings’ are a thing of the past. You have to be real, and words like ‘negotiation’ don’t quite make it.